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Is it normal, on occasion, to go back and double
check, to make sure the curling iron is unplugged,
or the house is locked? Sure it is.  But when a
person is  experiencing thoughts that are so
excessive, they interfear with daily life, and no
matter what they do, they can’t seem to stop them.
You are probably seeing someone with Obsessive
Compulsive Disorder.

If you or someone you love has Obsessive
Compulsive Disorder, You/they may feel isolated
and helpless, but there is help available. Many
treatments and self-help strategies can reduce the
symptoms of OCD.
A lot of people say they are obsessive compulsive. What does that mean?

Obsessive-compulsive disorder otherwise known as, OCD is listed as an  anxiety
disorder that is responsible for uncontrollable, unwanted thoughts, with repetitive,
ritualized behaviors you feel you must perform. If you have OCD, you are most likely
aware your obsessive thoughts and compulsive behaviors are irrational – but even so,
you feel like a prisoner, unable to resist them and break free.

It's like when you have a scratch on a CD and you are watching a movie. All of a sudden
that part of the movie begins to play over and over again, obsessive-compulsive
disorder (OCD) causes the brain to get stuck in a certain pattern, which may be a
certain thought or urge. For example, you may check the stove twenty times to make

sure it’s really turned off. You may wash  your hands until they’re scrubbed raw, or you may
check the lock on your front door so many times you may never get your car out of the driveway.
What are obsessions? What are compulsions? Why do we have them?

Obsessions are uncontrollable thoughts, images, or impulses that occur over and over again in your mind. You don’t
want to think these thought or see these pictures. In fact, you know that they probably do not make any sense. But
you can’t stop them. Unfortunately, you are unable to control them and they are interfering with your ability to carry on
with your daily life.

Compulsions are behaviors or rituals that come after your obsessive thoughts. Io other words once you have the
obsessive thoughts, you are compeled to act them out again and again. Usually, compulsions are performed in an
attempt to make obsessions go away. For example, if you’re afraid of dirt, you might create cleaning rituals.
However, the relief you get from performing the cleaning ritual never lasts. In fact, the obsessive thoughts usually
come back stronger. And the compulsive behaviors often end up causing anxiety upon themselves as they become
more demanding and time-consuming.

Although all people are unique individuals with wonderful trates and charicteristics, most people with obsessive
compulsive disorder have been placed into the following "categories":

  •    Washers are afraid of any type of dirt. They usually have cleaning or hand-washing compulsions.
  •    Checkers repeatedly check things (oven turned off, door locked, etc.) that they associate with harm or  
    danger.
  •    Doubters and sinners are afraid that if everything isn’t perfect or done just right something terrible will
    happen or they will be punished.
  •    Counters and arrangers are obsessed with order and symmetry. They may have superstitions about
    certain numbers, colors, or arrangements.
  •    Hoarders fear that something bad will happen if they throw anything away. They compulsively hoard things
    that they don’t need or use.

The above information has been obtained by the DSM IV, Diagnostic and Statistical Manuel of Mental Disorders.
What can I do if I have Obsessive Compulsive Disorder?

If you have obsessive-compulsive disorder (OCD), you can help yourself in many ways. Educating yourself
about the disorder is a vital first step. It’s also important to seek out help. Some of the tools that are benificial
such as cognitive/behavioral techniques, or mindfulness meditation need to be taught by a professional that
understands your issues and can help train you in this method. Once trained you will need to practice
developing these tools on a daily basis.
Dealing with and obsessive thoughts and compulsive behaviors:

  • Learn everything you can about OCD. Knowledge is power.Read books, schollary articles and
    magazines on the disorder and talk to your therapist and doctor. The more you know, the better able you
    will be to manage your symptoms. You can find many books about OCD at local or online bookstores.
  • Practice the skills you’ve learned in therapy. Your therapist is a highly educated person that has
    studied the causes, symptoms and treatments of the disorder. Therefore using the skills you’ve learned in
    therapy on a daily basis will  actively help you take charge work toward eliminating your obsessions and
    compulsive behaviors.
  • Stay connected to family and friends. As Barbara Streisand once sang, "people who need people are
    the luckest people in the world". Obsessions and compulsions can take over your life to the point of social
    isolation. When this occures, social isolation can aggravate your OCD. It’s important to have a network of
    family and friends you can turn to for help and support. Involving others in your treatment can help guard
    against setbacks and keep you motivated.
  • Join an OCD support group. You’re not alone in your struggle with OCD, and participating in a support
    group is an effective reminder of that. In a support group, you can share your experience, strength, and
    hope, while learning from others who are going through the same thing you are. You can find support
    groups at hospitals and associations. The major association that can provide information for you is the
    Obsessive Compulsive Foundation website which stores a data base of support groups. Click here for
    that link
  • Practice relaxation techniques. Meditation, yoga, deep breathing, and other stress relief techniques
    may help reduce the symptoms of anxiety brought on by OCD. Mindfulness meditation may be particularly
    helpful to OCD sufferers.
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