According to one of the worlds most authoritative marriage researchers, there are
some people that will stay in an unhappy marriage so long, major resentment will
build and they will feel there is no solution other than divorce. Some times they
won't talk about their feelings, or their unhappiness. They remain quiet, hoping
something will change, or the problems will become instantly fixed on there own.
Then there are those that believe they can fix it on their own. These people do not
understand the brain that created the problems, are unlikely to fix the problems it
created, otherwise it would have not created them in the first place. But, these
people continue to try with all their might to fix the relationship. They feel they owe it
to the relationship or the children to try to fix it before throwing in the towel and
packing their bags.
Both of these types of couples believe marriage counseling does not work. Or they
will state they have been to counseling before, but got little out of it. The research
shows that people will wait on an average of six years before seeking help. They
have not given their marriage a fair chance by working with a professional
counselor.
When most people marry they make little effort to discover what makes marriages
work for many years. What they do not seem to understand is making a marriage
work and solving the problems takes relationship skills.
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